Writing a eulogy for a loved one is an honorable task.
It can also be very difficult.
It’s not just any talk. It’s a tribute you’ll want to get right. Whether you deliver the eulogy in written or oral form, it will remain a faithful document of remembrance that can have a lasting, yet intangible, impact for the deceased and their family.
Generally speaking, eulogies can include many themes and styles. Whether you choose to write yours humorously or more seriously, the important thing is to be honest. Here are some tips to help you get started.
Write for the public
It is important to keep in mind who the audience is. Whether you write or deliver the eulogy verbally, consider the audience a participant in your story. It’ll likely be a mix of family and friends, so considering their feelings and how they might interpret what you’re saying can help you determine which style to use.
Consider who it really is for
Be sure to speak with other family members and friends of the deceased about the deceased. Generally, this will ensure that your facts are correct and can help you determine which stories and anecdotes to tell. When you really think about the deceased person and frame it through discussions with family and close friends, the overall picture of the eulogy will become clearer and more authentic.
Organizing your feelings, memories, and stories can be difficult. If you’re writing the eulogy, consider your discussions with others to help shape the tone. Based on their feedback, you should be able to align your own thoughts with theirs in determining whether the eulogy will be serious, sad, upbeat, funny, or even a combination of these. If you’re giving the eulogy, having notes handy is a good idea so you don’t lose track of the points you want to make.
Either way, remember that funeral services are a keepsake, so sharing all sorts of stories about the person is generally appropriate. Talk about what they liked in life, the people they liked, and the things they were good at.
Once you’ve written a first draft, ask for feedback. Make sure it meets the expectations of those closest to the deceased. It’s the best way to make sure you’re not mistaken.
Above all, be authentic.
If you are in touch with your feelings and thoughts, it will result in the kind of praise that people will fondly remember.
For more information on eulogies or any other part of funeral services or planning, please visit www.thejonesfh.com or call us at 815-288-2241.
Jones Funeral Home
204 S. Ottawa Ave.
Dixon, IL 61021